Read the commands of Maria Montessori and share them with all your friends and family. Respect the child, his childhood and help him in his development is the task of every adult surrounded by children. Knowing their times, valuing their efforts, giving them freedom and guiding them towards critical thinking is the goal. The transforming capacity of the adult can even change the world.
19 commandments of Maria Montessori
In pedagogical terms, the concept of “commandment” may be a bit strong and even exaggerated. What the renowned pedagogue wrote were reminders that served as the basis and guide for all those interested in the development of children.
Maria Montessori argued that the child learned through play, in their own and spontaneous ways. The adult is only a guide that provides materials and environments conducive to the development of knowledge. However, the same infant is the main participant in said construction. (To learn more, you can read the principles of the Montessori method )
Next, we will mention some key concepts that we will call “Maria Montessori’s commandments” with the objective of elaborating a list for parents and interested in general:
1. Children learn from everything around them:
Children should learn by playing, in a space prepared for it, with the right material, lighting, ventilation, and security.
2. If you criticize a child too much, you are only teaching him to judge:
The example is a great teacher. Children are like sponges that absorb not only what they read, but also what they see and hear.
3. If you value the effort regularly, he will learn to recognize the achievements:
The example not only helps to imitate. It is also an invitation to draw conclusions and understand that every great result involved a great effort. Maria Montessori’s commandments are intended to teach respect even to adults.
4. If hostility is shown to the child, he will learn to fight:
Hostility is an obstacle in the process of knowledge development. We need others not only to live together but also to reason.
5. If you are fair to the child, he will learn to be fair to the world:
Feeling the satisfaction of justice well taught will make someone confident and confident to face the world.
6. If the child is ridiculed in public, we will get him to be shy and withdrawn:
Nothing is further from respect than the permanent ridicule of the child. The commandments of Maria Montessori seek to distance us from prejudices and labels that do not help at all.
7. If the child develops in a safe environment, he will learn to trust others:
For the child to be a protagonist in the construction of knowledge, he must know and trust the adult who guides him.
8. If the child or his aptitudes are denigrated, a feeling of guilt will be developed that is detrimental to his life:
The feeling of guilt paralyzes us, makes us prejudiced and highly self-demanding. In the future, children must be responsible, critical adults and capable of recognizing opportunities in every error.
9. If the child’s ideas are taken into account and listened to, he will learn to trust his instincts:
Everything the child has to say is important, always, without exception.
10. If you are condescending to the needs of the child, he will learn to be patient:
Knowing how to recognize and give a name to needs is to teach how to control or manage them. With patience, the child learns that some can be satisfied in the short or long term, while others must wait for the right space and time.
11. If you are encouraged to move forward, he will learn to feel good about himself:
The child should know that, in the construction of knowledge, there are no steps backward. Each mistake, mistake or failure is a new learning. (As “knowledge” we refer to everything the child needs to discover or know, it can be academic knowledge, values, coexistence, family, friendship, etc.)
12. If the child develops in a friendly atmosphere where he is a necessary participant, he will learn to see love in the world around him:
The child must feel loved and necessary. The world is not the same without him.
13. Do not speak ill of the child when he is present. Not when it is not.
Do not talk about the child under any circumstances. Being cautious in this regard demonstrates the respect we have for you.
14. Focus on the good things about the child. Do it in such a way that there is no place to find anything bad:
Highlight all the positive aspects of the child. Each characteristic that makes it up is good in itself.
15. Always listen to what the child has to say. Respond with respect when he approaches you with a question or comment:
Through consultations, affirmations or conclusions, the child tries to approach knowledge. These are the tools with which it has to develop hypotheses and then achieve adequate experimentation. It is our responsibility, as guides, to provide those communication channels.
16. Always respect the child, especially when he has made a mistake. If you can not do it now, you can do it later.
When you make a mistake is when you need a guide most, so you do not understand mistakes as lack of ability. The child must know that everything has its rhythm and patience is a great ally.
17. You must be willing to help the child in case he needs or looks for something. However, you must also be willing to go unnoticed when he finds what he is looking for or no longer needs you.
The commands of Maria Montessori remind us that the child is the protagonist of his own development.
18. Help the child to assimilate what he could not do before. In the process, it fills his world with care, discretion, timely silence and love.
The child is fully capable of everything, in due time. To help you assimilate this is to prepare you to handle the frustrations you will surely face along the way. The love, the understanding, the safe word and the silent accompaniment will give you the necessary restraint.
19. Address the child in the best possible way. Provide the best there is for you:
As a guide, you must deliver everything from you, to achieve a better future.